By Sally Barnes
Since COVID-19 first hit, I have marveled at how differently people react to the various forecasts, precautions, and rules involving the pandemic. Reaction runs the whole gamut from paranoia to utter disdain.
I know people who have chosen to leave their homes only for the bare necessities these last nine months and all social contact is spurned. If and when the “all clear” is sounded, these folks will be studied with the same interest given Wiarton Willie when he surfaces from his little cave each February to predict if it will be an early spring.
Will this new reclusive class be able to become active members of society again after a year of little or no personal social interaction? Good question.
Their polar opposites are those who will don a mask simply because it’s the only way to gain entry to the LCBO and other services deemed essential. These folks can’t get it into their fat heads that hanging out with a few dozen drunks at their favorite watering hole is a bad idea because this virus is highly contagious and feeds off crowds.
In that same category are those who insist on their divine right to meet within the four walls of a church surrounded by a throng of fellow worshippers. The God I know would be just as happy to hear from them on a regular basis from the safety of their own homes.
Don’t get me started on Randy Hillier, the MPP for Lanark-Frontenac-Kingston, who has long engaged in conspiracy theories and raged against programs to curb the virus. He fancies himself and his fans as freedom fighters. He recently posted on social media a photo of himself with about 15 smiling family members celebrating Christmas. When one charitable reader suggested it may have been a photo from yesteryear, Randy replied proudly, ‘nope, Dec. 27 this year.’
Somewhere between the recluses and the renegades like Randy are the rest of us in the mushy middle—the much-maligned silent majority.
I hope that at some point there will be research to analyze the factors that determine individual behaviour during the pandemic. What makes one person so fearful and her neighbour so cavalier?
From the pandemic outset, a popular refrain has been that we are all in this together and we need to be kind and loving to each other. Our spirits have been lifted by the stories of selfless and courageous first responders, overworked health care providers, and individuals going the extra mile as good neighbours.
I cannot understand the polarized groups at the opposite ends of the spectrum noted above. I do, however, respect their right to their own beliefs (but not necessarily their actions).
I just wish they would respect the rest of us who believe in being responsible in a responsible way, which includes some tough personal decision-making.
Sadly, this pandemic is quietly robbing some of us of our humanity and kindness and causing discord within families and among friends.
Let’s admit to frayed nerves from fear, isolation, and separation, and that some of our actions are regrettable—from governments right on down to individuals.
With several months to go before it can be over, the pandemic is taking its toll in many ways and we need to try harder to understand, support, and respect each other.
Let’s agree that some government policies are just plain unfair. Little shops are shut down while the big guys continue to operate. Many people have been plunged into poverty while many already-rich have become richer. Many government jobs are for the moment safe but in the private sector job losses mount daily.
It’s good that our governments have provided aid to individuals, families, companies, and various groups but in the rush to do so we’ve seen sloppiness and mistakes and a pile of debt that will take generations to pay down. This spending spree will leave one helluva hangover in its wake.
The pandemic has brought out the best and worst in many of us and it shows in our everyday lives.
We’ve created a whole new faction I call the Enforcers. These are folks who must have secretly yearned for years to be in a position of power. Self-appointed, they are everywhere.
They hang out in grocery stores and leap out from behind the Corn Flakes to reprimand some brain-addled soul anxious to find the canned prunes and return to the security of their home. The offence? Going up the down aisle.
If the Enforcers had their way, alarms would go off and offenders would be frog-marched to stand at the front of the store wearing a dunce hat.
You can easily recognize the recluses in stores by their shopping buggies—loaded to the gills with toilet paper and booze and various staples so they won’t have to brave another outing for weeks. Their carts are the Mac trucks of the shopping highway. They are big, in a hurry, and dangerous.
Over the Christmas holiday some homeowners were nervous that two extra cars in the driveway might cause a neighbour to call the health authorities. And families shared unfounded rumours that cars might be stopped on the 400 to fine travelers in transit after the midnight travel ban went into force on Dec. 26.
My God, it has come to this in this freedom-loving country of ours and its welcoming communities.
I am bothered by stories of families whose members quarreled among themselves over gathering at Christmas. Siblings who chose to head home were chewed out by those who stayed away. It will take some time to restore these relationships. Why couldn’t they just agree to disagree and respect each others’ decisions?
I am especially appalled how some well-intentioned offspring have made it their job to protect their parents and grandparents from the evil virus by blocking their social interaction. They fail to recognize that what the old folks probably need most is just a socially distant cup of tea with a friend. The elderly may survive the physical ravages of COVID-19 but confined alone in a little room or apartment for months on end could leave them nuttier than fruit cakes (to use a seasonal expression).
In addition to a whole new irritating lingo (modelling, flattening the curve, social distancing, your bubble, etc.), the pandemic has birthed a new game for political adversaries and the media. It involves informers and stakeouts at borders and airports to catch violators of the do-not-travel laws. In a short time they’ve bagged some big game.
Where and when does it all end?
Let’s hope that when Wiarton Willie emerges for his forecast next month he will also foresee an end to what has ailed us and we can go back to being nice to each other.
Surely, we can get through the rest of this without being mean.
Best wishes for a better, gentler, and healthier new year!
Sally Barnes has enjoyed a distinguished career as a writer, journalist and author. Her work has been recognized in a number of ways, including receiving a Southam Fellowship in Journalism at Massey College at the University of Toronto. A self-confessed political junkie, she has worked in the back-rooms for several Ontario premiers. In addition to a number of other community contributions, Sally Barnes served a term as president of the Ontario Council on the Status of Women. She is a former business colleague of Doppler’s Hugh Mackenzie and lives in Kingston, Ontario. You can find her online at sallybarnesauthor.com
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BJ BOLTAUZER says
Oh, my… As usual, just perfect and beautiful. Thank you very much, Sally Barnes. A much-needed balanced analysis with the comfort affording clarity for the sorry state we all live in these days.
BJ
Brenda Begg says
Sally, I got quite the chuckle. I think I’m one of the ones who may identify as a ‘wanna be’ Enforcer. Maybe that’s because I’m an elementary teacher (retired and VERY grateful to be retired). Thank you for this.
nancy long says
I also got a chuckle, and have been pondering some of the same things. Thank you for your insight.
Nadine Beatty says
Spot on Sally! I had quite a chuckle myself. Thank you.
We do need to pick up the phone to call friends and family just to check-in. I have my days as I am a very social person and I am sure others do to.
Bess Coleman says
A breathe of fresh air Sally, l also laughed out loud at so many of your observations. I find myself in total agreement with most of what you are saying. Thanks so much for an objective and sane analysis of our fellow humans.
Elaine Rainey says
Marvelous! I’m with you Sally?❤️?
Laurel Wallace says
I love the way you write about everything Sally, and this article is particularly pertinent and clever. As a retired nurse, ‘anti-maskers’ enrage me! If they do get sick with COVID due to their refusals to follow safe protocols, they will still show up in the Emergency Rooms of our hospitals expecting treatment by our overworked and overstressed nursing and medical staff!