I’ve changed during and because of this pandemic. Sadly, so has my country.
Like so many others, thanks to a throng of scientific experts and lawmakers, I have become a recluse.
Our dining room—the scene of so many wonderful gatherings of family and friends over the years—is deserted. Candles remain unlit. Cherished dishes haven’t seen the light of day in months. Silverware cries out for polishing but who’s to see it or use it? Nobody.
With the odd visitor we’re allowed, we eat at the kitchen table.
If this continues much longer I fear we will become “sink eaters”. I first heard that expression from a Maritime friend to describe how, following the death of her husband, she found herself skipping meals and eating at the sink as she mindlessly stared out the window.
In my new life as a hermit, I ration my intake of news coverage and its endless account of death, destruction, and despotism. I avoid social media and its reminder of how bat-ass crazy some have become and the venom and hatred that skulks in the hearts and minds of many.
Once an avid shopper, I have adopted a “grab and run” policy. Any necessities that can’t be delivered to my door, I gather by running into a shop, grabbing what we need, and getting out of there as quickly as I can.
Sometimes, on my rare venture into the real world, I am approached by someone who greets me like a lifelong friend or associate and wants to chat. Damned if I can recognize them because of their mask. Some days I think they are maybe just lonely people hanging out in public places anxious to talk to anyone.
Here in Canada, because we are blessed with such resources, we will survive this pandemic. But I fear we will never be the same. Our weaknesses and failures as a society have been exposed, public confidence in our leaders and governments has been shaken, and you can cut with a knife the cynicism that exists about almost everything.
Every day we are reminded what a botch-up we’ve made of many of our democratic institutions and essential services.
The pandemic has exposed the fragility and shortcomings of our “world class” healthcare system and that it was a straw house just waiting to collapse under major pressure.
Overnight, so-called experts were brought in to respond to a pandemic, scrambled to do their best but neglected to consider what would happen if our schools were shut down or if we didn’t have the workers to staff the hospitals and stores and public services.
The system for recruiting and training health care professionals is faulty and our immigration and regulatory policies are partly to blame. Thousands of additional nurses are needed while thousands of young people can’t get into nursing programs or others have foreign credentials ensnared in our bulging bureaucracies.
Education? Starved of funds for repair or replacement of crumbling infrastructure and the lack of measures like ventilation. Demand for reform and the new challenge of repairing the carnage of two years of online learning at all levels from kindergarten to our colleges and universities.
Programs and facilities for the elderly are pathetic. Whom to blame?
The tsunami known as the Baby Boomers has had a major impact on society since the day this post-war generation came into the world. They have turned 75 and bring with them huge demand for costly health care and other social programs.
Warnings that we were unprepared for the demands and needs of the aging population went unheeded and the first wave of the pandemic took a cruel toll on our seniors. Families stood by helplessly as parents and grandparents died isolated and afraid.
The pandemic has wrecked our economy, created a mountain of public debt, and exacerbated countless social problems such as addictions, family breakdown, mental health issues, joblessness, bankruptcies, domestic abuse, and criminal behaviour. It will take years to assess the damage caused by closing our schools.
The pandemic has left many of us scared and angry and seeking revenge.
It has set neighbour against neighbour and caused major rifts in families and workplaces.
Many of the rich got richer during this pandemic while most of the poor got poorer. People working for governments and their agencies kept their jobs and worked at home while family-owned businesses closed and many will never reopen.
We know that the pandemic has increased the spread of racism, misogyny, corporate greed, and lack of respect for our laws and standards of civility, the importance of public discourse, freedom of speech, and tolerance.
There is growing public anger with those who choose to remain unvaccinated and are driving virus-induced hospitalization all across Canada, holding the rest of us hostage in the battle to control and survive this pandemic.
Many of us know those whose diagnosis or treatment for serious illnesses have been postponed or cancelled because the unvaccinated have selfishly monopolized limited health care resources.
A new poll out last week shows Canadians are in favour of harsh punishment for the unvaccinated. Maru Public Opinion found 37 per cent support denying them publicly funded health care and another 27 per cent say it’s okay to go as far as a short jail sentence.
C’mon people! At the rate we’re going, can it be far off when lynching in the public square replaces movies on Netflix?
We need to distinguish between those who are vaccine hesitant and/or simply refuse the vaccinations and those who actively campaign against it, spread lies and conspiracy theories, threaten vaccine proponents and their families, harass politicians, media commentators and health care workers, and use other illegal means to further their selfish and deadly cause.
Extreme proposals like imposing special taxes on the non-vaccinated and denying them health care end up hurting the most vulnerable and will only widen prospects for opportunistic politicians to feed off public rancor.
Every political party has its base of support and extreme measures are red meat for some politicians—especially those preparing for upcoming elections.
Make no mistake—vaccine policy is a wedge issue that can win votes as it divides people and foments social unrest and loss of confidence in our democratic institutions.
Here in this country, our political extremists are not as numerous, visible or obviously mad as in the U.S. but they are out there and influencing public policy.
Federal Conservative leader Erin O’Toole’s statement that the unvaccinated should be “reasonably accommodated” was at best a poor choice of words and at worst political stupidity. Laws, civility, and tolerance preserve our freedom to hold different opinions and to make different choices. But that freedom does not extend to endangering the health and well-being of others. Our courts seem to agree.
Rather than O’Toole’s appeasement and Justin Trudeau’s bad-mouthing of the unvaccinated, we need leaders who will do the heavier lifting of devising programs that actually work to get people vaccinated.
Thanks to media coverage of our pandemic failings and high-profile issues such as residential schools, the world knows that we Canadians are not the ideal, polite and apology-seeking people as we were once known.
But we remain a good people and a good country. A beacon of hope in a world gone mad.
The challenge is to learn from our mistakes and preserve our civility despite the challenges and pressure this damnable pandemic has imposed on us and our way of life.
It would be sad to win this battle but wake up from our hermit state to realize we are no longer the kind of society we and others thought we were.
That truly would be winning the battle and losing the war.
Sally Barnes has enjoyed a distinguished career as a writer, journalist and author. Her work has been recognized in a number of ways, including receiving a Southam Fellowship in Journalism at Massey College at the University of Toronto. A self-confessed political junkie, she has worked in the back-rooms for several Ontario premiers. In addition to a number of other community contributions, Sally Barnes served a term as president of the Ontario Council on the Status of Women. She is a former business colleague of Doppler’s publisher, Hugh Mackenzie, and lives in Kingston, Ontario. You can find her online at sallybarnesauthor.com.
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Anna-Lise Kear says
Sally Barnes, a reasonable summary. “we will never be the same” – no we won’t, just as after any pandemic episode or war. Wars have taken decade years of recovery after their devastation. One of the greatest travesties, in my opinion, has been the down-playing of the pandemic, instead of applying some form of the Emergency Measures Act (both Provincial and Federal agreement required in this case); I suspect that a lasting retrospective assessment of this time will bring into question why this was not employed at the get-go. Imagine the uproar.
#1, we should support rigorous pandemic planning for future. However, attention will be required on Climate Change actions (we can expect climate-change-deniers to emerge in protest to draw this one out too).
Lumping baby boomer population as the only important variable in costly health care, pre-pandemic, is a bit misleading. An equal significant variable increasing costs has been developments in diagnostic equipment in use (e.g. CT Scans, MRIs); these are costly tests, used with all population groups.
I am sorry your world has been turned upside down, glad you have had an opportunity to express your feelings. Not only is our personal mental health exposed, but root causes in our inadequate collective planning, spending, and priorities as a society. There must be new solutions considered, not the same old ways.
John Stanley says
This is happening because we as Canadians let it. We follow the government like sheep. shame on us.
HUGH HOLLAND says
Re “We need leaders who will do the heavier lifting of devising programs that actually work to get people vaccinated.” – Our federal and provincial officials have worked together tirelessly to fend off this monster with results we should be proud of and thankful for. The most telling statistic is the number of deaths per million people. After 2 years, the number of deaths per million among G7 countries with similar resources and credible data are USA 2676, Italy 2385, UK 2255, France 1877, Canada 857, and the island of Japan 147. Vacination rates are USA 63.8%, UK 71.8%, Canada 78.8%, Japan 79.2%. Given our somtimes too-close proximity to the USA, those numbers should give us some confidence in our public health system and public officials. China stands at 3 deaths per million and is reporting a vaccination rate of 86% of 1.4 billion people. Apparently China has “programs that actually work”???
David James says
Hugh, in response to your comment/question “China has “programs that actually work”???”
I believe a truer, more accurate statement is they have media and outgoing press releases that are created, monitored and controlled by the CCP.
Brian Tapley says
Sally makes many good points, hard to argue against most of them.
Although social media was originally held up as one of our better achievements, I would question this assessment.
It is too easy for quacks, charlatans and outright liars like Trump to try to force their twisted view of reality over our society for personal or political gain, This leaves many of us wondering where reality has gone to hide.
It is worth reminding ourselves that Facebook was originally created as a way for male university students to sort of “rate” women and also remember the fact that in any real crisis, the internet can be shut off with the speed of a light switch. It is not quite the rock solid source of comfort and information that we often think it to be. Although it can be fast and handy, it can easily distort the truth
The Pandemic of Covid however, is here to stay and probably for ever. We need to figure out a way to live with it and each other that works better than panic driven lock downs and misguided street demonstrations about “rights” that may or may not be based on anything but fear.
Commonly we hear the phrase that “we are all in this together” and we are and we need to remember that with “rights” come “responsibilities”. They cannot be separated.
nancy long says
I absolutely agree that sally Barnes has written a decent summary of the current situation. Now comes the hard part. We need some real solutions to the problems that she has highlighted. One glaring omission is the real estate debacle that the pandemic has created. I suggest that we start with housing. Here in muskoka, it is obvious that we need more social housing. That’s where government can actually step up. We need people in government who can get this done. Not just talk about it. But who? Our elected members of parliament? I’m just wondering. Thank you sally for your perspective and insights.